Dear Anie,

You have now entered the period of time in your life when everything, and nothing, is as it seems. There will be moments of reflection, harking back to when your youngest babe was so fresh and new and you were confused and crying and seeking direction. You found it in her care and that of her sisters. They need you then and they need you now but it is all the same and entirely different.
There will be moments of wondering what is next, even though next is happening to you right then and there. There will be moments of clarity when the path is lit with greatness, nothing can be undone and all is well lit and beautiful.
The lights go out. They always do.
But then they come on again, begging for you to center yourself and quickly, pivot to find the danger, seek the light and comfort you can. Maybe you bake a cake, call a friend or stand still for a moment, sending your heart out to anyone who will listen even the daily customer who just walks close enough that you feel him and he takes a load off, Anie.
You will question everything and hope every so often to be reassured that the question has an answer you don’t need to question. Is there milk at home? Are my babies safe and warm? Do I need water or coffee or just a bathroom break?
The meaning of life will insert itself randomly and without cause or warning. Be ware, this. It will try to evoke meaning and adhere you to its stricture. It will try to get you off the path of truly not knowing and onto the path of what has seemed right for others, in the past. But those are ethereal, holograms of truth. No one ever knows if law school or a bakery is the right answer. Let the beads decide.
Even then, is it your own energy that pulls them to the very hand that holds the yellow bead? You won’t ever know. None of us will. How much wine is too much to hold you up right now? How many tears will you cry before the taps are dry for the evening? How many things must you discard in seeking light and space before it begins to feel as though you have undressed and cannot even find the you that you thought you were a day, an hour, 10 minutes ago. You are not in that box ready for the donation bin. You are you, strong and true. You get to keep pouring energy into the vessel that you want to become.
Do not stray from this mission. It is long and hard and has no end. You are becoming you every step of the way. Iteratations, new versions, sleep, endless nights, wild thoughts and familiar ones as well side by side. Take them all in, filter them like the whale eats his food and let the rest go back out into the world, feeding another hungry soul the food that you don’t need. The food you need is you. You are all you need.

a new season

This is the morning of a new season. There will be movement and lists and introspection. There will be focused hard fought victories and nights of crying myself to sleep. There will be forceful expansion of my heart and the way I do things, the way I love and the people I surround myself with.
I need to learn to ask for what I need. I am focused and determined in my need to know what they need, how to serve, what to do, how to please. But where is my asking, my needs being shown and met? I have them, sure, but then they go to bed with me, unmet/unasked/unanswered. So much wrenching heartache without the equal or happy giving back to me.
Ply the depths, ask the questions, feel the needs and get the needs met. Do so with the conviction that I am worth it, always and the asking and fulfillment of me creates the well from which I can draw to give back to others. A circle of goodness and light, though it must be gained by traveling through the darkness of cold days and tearful nights.
The sun will shine, more often than not and the moon will also shine more often than not. Let these be my guide, my hopeful clarity in this season of lists and need and exploration. Of getting it right and getting it all wrong.

um, ouch?

“Mama, I did some writing today. It was about family. Mostly about papa. And Lucy and Josey. I meant to add Millie (the cat) and also forgot about you. It’s mostly about papa.”

today, this

how to get out. turn down the cheerful voices upstairs, acting as a salve to the overall lack of attention. close your eyes to the mess here there and everywhere. tune your radio to some songs from a friend, listen well and let that hold you up, if just for now.
try not to get too far out onto the whatifs/soons/possibilities at any one time. let them guide you along the way, like stars along the way and yet not be the flashlight that needs to be on, pointed in the right direction, consistently, persistently, always.
be inspired by the joy of your children but do not collude with complacency or self doubt or taking the easy road. none of us knows what is ever ahead, only behind. go with what you know and work from that. if you have looked carefully, the map is there, behind you and it is time, now, to follow a new different map out of the mess.
stay strong. count on your friends. call on your friends and be guided by inspiration, intuition, the solid ground on which you have laid, been laying and want to count on for the future.
its all you, mama. do it.

show your work

oh, this happens on so many levels and really, the bottom line is exposure. show what you love~let it out into the world and let it be seen and heard and judged. who cares if you are not able to control the noun once it’s out of your hands…it will be judged and your ability to take that judgement will be a test, one which will be repeated ad infinitum until the noun no longer exists or is put away to no longer be seen and judged.
we expose ourselves to show our work and boy does it take a bit of doing to feel confident, every day, that this is the right thing to do. but in doing so, and letting the light in and peeling back the layers of ( ) ,